Over at the YWN Coffeeroom, we were having an interesting debate about the proper way to run a marriage. One of the posters brought the Rambam and the Shulchan Aruch which say that a wife is supposed to (among other things) wash her husband's feet. This led a female poster to post a poll on a female-only message board as to whether or not women do this for their husbands. She reported back that none of them do and that at least one poster thought it was "gross."
This lead a someone to wonder how someone could be intimate with someone if they find the concept of washing feet gross.
I commented that people are not always logical about these things. After all, I am willing to kiss my wife, but I won't take her pre-chewed gum.
I was going to write "french kiss," but I was afraid that that would freak out the YWN censors too much.
As it turns out, even kiss was too much. A moderator edited my post to say "embrace" rather than "kiss." What's worse, they didn't even notate that they edited my post.
My main disputant in the thread, Kasha, came back and said something to the effect of "come on, Wolf -- there's a big difference between touching someone with your hands and taking their pre-chewed gum."
Of course, he's right in his objection. He had no idea that my post was edited to the point where it was ridiculous.
The fact of the matter is that it's one thing to enforce an editorial policy on a board. It's another thing altogether to change a poster's words and then NOT EVEN NOTE THAT YOU'VE CHANGED IT! That's just wrong and dishonest and make me want to reconsider participating in that forum.
It's obvious that I have disagreements with people over at the Coffeeroom -- but that's fine -- I don't mind debating in a heated environment. But when the administrators are willing to change your words, undermine the very point you're making and then make it look like you said it, then you have to wonder whether an honest, intellectual debate is even possible anymore.
EDIT: They finally put up my note to Kasha explaining that I did not use the word "embrace." Of course, that post was edited as well.