Friday, November 07, 2008

Friday Is Picture Day At WolfishMusings!!

One area of photography that I love is macro photography. Pictures of flowers and buildings are nice and well, but when you can get thisclose to your subject and present it in a new light, you can really achieve something special (if you do it right, of course). One of the first lenses that I bought for my new camera was a macro lens.

Here's a picture I took of a sunflower about a year and a half ago.



Taken with a Canon S3IS

As always, any comments, criticisms and critiques are welcomed and appreciated.

The Wolf


Previous Photos:
Statue of Liberty
Trinity Church, September 11, 2008
Manhattan Tulips
Dragonfly

Where Did Personal Integrity Go?

E-Kvetcher has a post today about frum people in Chicago who voted twice for McCain in the recent presidential election -- once under their Hebrew name and once under their legal (English) name. I don't know (and E-Kvetcher doesn't tell us) whether this was racially motivated or whether they simply preferred McCain's policies. In any event, it doesn't really matter, I suppose.

What I find interesting is how we pay a lot of lip service to the idea of honesty in all our dealings -- even with non-Jews, and yet we simply fail miserably at following through in real life. There is a story often told about a Jew who consistently returned a few cents that he regularly received in excess change to a non-Jew postal clerk. Years later that very same non-Jew, impressed with the honesty and piety of the Jew, goes on to save him and other Jews from the Nazis. Other vesions of the story exist (with a shopkeep, or with the Czar instead of the Nazis, but they're all pretty much the same story). Who among us hasn't heard a story of this type? I know I've heard it countless times -- and it's a good story. The point being made is that if you conduct yourself with honesty, and treat people fairly, they will respect you and see you (and possibly your community) as people to be treated fairly.

Sadly, this lesson has been lost on today's generation. Today's generation looks at the story and misses the point entirely. Instead of seeing the message of "be honest, you never know what the consequences are," the message has become "be honest when it only costs you a few cents. A few cents may save you in the future." But when it comes to larger issues, honesty falls by the wayside.

Now, I don't want to suggest that this is a simply a frum problem -- it's not. There are plenty of people around the world of all stripes who are openly dishonest; and, as a firm believer in karma (aka Divine Justice) I beleive that they will eventually have to answer for it. But we tend to pay a great amount of lip service to the idea of honesty. We say that the seal of HKBH is truth. We're taught to be scrupulously honest -- even with non-Jews. And yet, time and again, we see examples where we fail to live up to the very ideals we profess to hold as the highest values.

I'm not suggesting that we should be perfect. I understand that Jews, like everyone else, are only human. We're all subject to temptations and failings. We all (myself included) find that sometimes we fall short of the mark. But that's fine -- as I said, we're human and not meant to be perfect. However, when it comes to the measure of a person's character, I sometimes feel that what's more important is the subsequent actions that a person takes. If a person steals someting, are they ashamed of the fact that they stole? Are they willing to make restitution (even secretly) and resolve to sin no more? Or are they proud of the fact that they got away with it? In other words, are they essentially honest people who simply slipped up once and gave in to temptation, or are they simply dishonest people?

Much of our halachic system is built on the idea of trust and personal integrity. How do I know that the food Eeees prepares for my dinner is kosher? Because I trust her. How do I know when I go to a restaurant or somone's home that they food they serve is kosher? Trust. I rely on thier personal honesty. How do I know my tefillin and mezzuos are written in order (if they are written out of order, they are invalid -- and this is not something that can be caught on inspection)? Again, we rely on the honesty of the sofer. Heck, how did we know that the Kohen Gadol in the Temple performed the ketores service in the proper way? Sure, he was made to swear that he'd do it the right way, but once he swore, we relied on his honesty that he would carry out his oath. In short, much of our halachic system is built on the idea of personal honesty. To see it so casually battered in public speaks volumes, I believe, about how we've lost our way and how we've lost sight of what truly is one of the major underpinnings of our religion.

The Wolf

(EDIT: I suppose I was unclear in the post. I didn't mean to suggest that there is rampant election fraud in Chicago [or anywhere else]. The post wasn't really about the election, but the open dishonesty in general [collecting sales tax comes to mind] that goes on in our community. The election fraud is just an example. My apologies for all those who were misled by my post.)

Wednesday, November 05, 2008

A YWN Coffeeroom Poster Thinks Racism Is Dead

From the thread's OP:

Yesterday's election proves what most of us long knew: that racism is dead. Sure there are exceptions with individuals who don't like blacks, but institutionally racism is a long dead animal.

I don't know if he's right. It racism may be dead (in the U.S.) on an institutional basis, or it may not be. However, hearing this from a YWN Coffeeroom thread, three words come to mind:

Pot
Kettle
Black

The Wolf

Tuesday, November 04, 2008

My Revised Take on the "Jewish Philosopher"

In a previous post, I mentioned that I though the Jewish Philosopher was someone who, well, let's just say that I thought he lived in a different reality than the rest of us. However, after conversing with him further (yeah, I know... I'm a glutton for punishment), I'm starting to become convinced that he is quite sane and doesn't actually believe a word of what he publishes. IOW, he is simply "poisoning the well" for the ultra-fundamentalists.

Why do I think this? Based on our last exchange.

Another poster: read Rav kook's essays on atheism before sounding off anymore on atheism.

JP: Sorry, but this blog doesn't follow Rav Kook.

Me: Okay, so which Rav does it follow? Who is the Rav who would advocate what you are advocating?

<<>>

JP: If you only read blogs which are written under rabbinical supervision, I'm sorry, this blog is not. I do not have a rabbinical supervisor.

Me: You mean that you're advocating breaking up thousands of families, throwing thousands of people into permanent homelessness, forcing them to undergo lie-detector, STD and drug tests, and you haven't even discussed this with a Rav at all??!

JP: Yup.

I find it hard to believe that any ultra-fundamentalist would want to set up the program that he does without actually consulting a Rav at all. As such, I am forced to conclude that he doesn't really believe any of the stuff he spouts. He's simply putting on an act.

The Wolf

Is Anyone Having Problems Commenting?

I've received two emails from readers today stating that they cannot comment on posts. At first I wondered if this was because I went to in-line comments, but then again, I've had them for a few weeks now. Also, this seems to be a problem across multiple browsers.

Is anyone else out there having problems? If so, please feel free to drop me an email (link on the side of the blog).

Thanks,

The Wolf

Update (12:09PM): I put back the old "pop up box" type commenting. Let's see if that solves the problem.

Reflections On Voting -- Why Did I Even Bother Going?

This is the last election-related post, I promise.

I went to vote this morning. It was an experience in utter futility.

There were five contests on the ballot -- President/VP, Congressman, State Assembly, State Senate and local judges.

Congressman -- the only real choice was Anthony Weiner. The Republicans didn't put up a candidate.

State Senate -- the only choice was the Republican. The Democrats didn't put anyone up.

State Assembly -- the only choice was the Democrat. The Republicans didn't put anyone up.

Local Judges -- the same eight people ran on both lines.

President/VP -- there I had a choice. But then again, I live in New York, so it really doesn't matter anyway.

So, why the heck did I even bother going?

The Wolf

Bonus Picture: In Honor Of Election Day -- Lady Liberty Herself

Despite my earlier (lame) attempt at humor, it *is* very important that every eligible voter goes out and votes today. I *will* be casting a ballot today (yes, for a real candidate). In honor of the occasion, I present this picture of Liberty Enlightening The World. This picture was taken from a Circle Line boat in the harbor.



Picture details
(for those who care)
Canon XSi, 75-300mm at 300mm
f/5.6, 1/800

As always, comments, criticism and critiques are welcome and appreciated.

The Wolf

Previous Photos:
Trinity Church, September 11, 2008
Manhattan Tulips
Dragonfly

My Pick For President

As I said yesterday, I usually keep politics off this blog. However, this being an presidential election year -- a once in four-year occasion, I feel that I can make an exception. And so, I will make my case for my candidate for the highest office in the land.

Let me start out by saying that if there is one thing that I like to see in a candidate, it's an openness and forthrightness about the issues. Even if I vehemently disagree with you, as long as you are out in the open regarding where you stand, and as long as you are willing to back your position with facts and rational arguments, I can respect you. You may not get my vote, but you'll definitely be a step ahead of other candidates in my book.

Unfortunately, this election has been marred by excessive negativity. Both sides have engaged in smear tactics and negative campaigning. Personally, I don't want to hear you tell me why I shouldn't vote for the other guy... I want you to tell me why I should vote for you. In other words, if you can't back up your case without putting down the opposition, then there really is little to be said for you. Both sides have engaged in this type of campaigning, and, personally, I'm tired of it. I saw it in 2000, I saw it again in 2004 and now in 2008 -- and, sad to say, I'm certain that I'll see even more electoral nastiness in 2012.

So, what's to be done? Well, personally, I think that we should only support candidates who send out positive messages. S0, with that, I'm going to make my very first public endorsement of a candidate. My candidate never speaks ill of anyone. I've known this candidate for well over thirty years. In all that time, I (nor I think any of the other millions of people who know him) have heard him belittle others' opinions. He truly tries to send us a message of what is important -- being well-groomed is only of secondary importance to being constant in your message to the American (and global) public. He sends us a message that even people with disabilities, such as wandering eyes, for example, can still be trusted enough to occupy the highest office in the land. He tells us that transparency in your agenda is far more important than personality -- if you know where your candidate stands, you can then make an informed decision.

And so, I give you my candidate. He is constant in his message, he is caring and not at all negative. He is well-loved by the American public. I give you the Wolfish Musings choice for President of the United States in 2008...

























The Wolf

(Inspiration by How To Measure The Years)






Monday, November 03, 2008

Completely and Utterly Disgusted

I purposely keep politics off this blog. Even when it relates to the Jewish community, I usually keep politics off of the blog. None of my readers (and I literally mean that -- none) know how I'm going to vote tomorrow. This blog is not about politics -- if you want a Jewish opinion about U.S. politics, there are plenty of fine J-blogs that will give you an opinion from both sides of the spectrum.

That being said, it was reported today that Barack Obama's grandmother passed away today, one day before the election. My heartfelt condolences go out to the Obama and Dunham families. It must be very painful and bittersweet to have her pass away and just miss seeing her grandson possibly elected to the highest office in the land.

You'd think that anyone with common human decency could simply respect the fact that a family member passed away and that not trample on the feelings of family members who are in mourning. You'd also think that Jews, who are described as rachmanim, people who have mercy, could understand this even more. Alas, that's not always the case. On the YeshivaWorldNews thread where the news is reported is what has to be simply the most disgusting, bigoted and offensive comment thread I have ever had the displeasure of seeing. From insinuations that... nah, forget it. I don't even want to mention them -- that's how ugly they are.

For the record, I would like to state that I am utterly embarrassed and ashamed to belong to the same religion and species as some of the commentators there.

The Wolf

Update (5:57PM): The YWN editor has removed most of the objectionable comments. Most, but not all.

Update (6:32PM): The rest of the hateful comments have been removed. Thank you, YWN Editor.

The Wolf

More Shidduch Madness

I came across this interesting post on Semgirl about some of the madness that goes on in the shidduch world. We've all heard some of the silly and stupid reasons that result in shidduchim being called off. Well, I think Semgirl spotted a new all-time low. As she writes:

A friend of mine really worked overtime, laboriously for months, making a Shidduch. Boy likes girl, girl likes boy , blaaaa blaa, blaaa. Wonderful, they get engaged.

So far, so good, right? Of course not!

One set of in-laws was adamant that the Choson wear his payos up, the other was just as adamant that he wear them down. Ultimately, it proved to be such a bone of contention that the engagement was called off.

That's right... a difference of opinion amongst the in-laws regarding how the Chosson should wear his payos caused the shidduch to be called off. Now, I'm going to go out on a limb here and make the assumption that both the bride and groom are adults. I'm also going to go on the assumption (and I know that I'm making a real leap of faith here) that the groom has a prefernce in the way he wears them (how has he been wearing them until now?) and that the bride has the brain cells necessary to make a decision regarding how important an issue this is for her. But here we have a set of forty-to-sixty year olds arguing over how an adult is going to wear his payos!! This has to be the absolute stupidest reason for the breakup of a shidduch ever.

I find it completely incredible that people are willing to completely abdicate all responsibility for the biggest decision in their lives to others. Whom someone marries is probably the single decision that will have the greatest impact on the rest of the person's life. I'm not suggesting that young people should have to make this decision alone -- on the contrary, it would be the smart and responsible thing to do to seek the guidence of parents, friends, mentors and other people whom you trust. But to *completely* hand over such responsibility to the point where the the in-laws are arguing over payos? What was the bride's opinion on the matter? Isn't this something that they could have worked out amongst themselves (or broken it off by themselves if, for whatever reason, this was a deal-breaker)? Heck, isn't this the type of thing she would have seen on the first date?! Since they went out several times (yes, an assumption on my part) and this wasn't an issue for her before the engagement, I'm assuming that to her it wasn't an issue. Yet, rather than acting like an adult and telling her parents (in a respectful manner, of course) that she doesn't care one way or the other, or that she'll work it out with him, she decides to let her parents scuttle the shidduch!

At least in this case, according to Semgirl, there was a happy ending:

After much heated negotiation and mediation, they got back together. Even though, the Shadchan was in Israel on business, they were cajoled into proceding , as its such a volatile situation, it was too risky to wait . I kid you not.

One wonders what sort of "heated negotiation" there could be regarding payos. But then again, I guess because I'm not in that world, I just can't understand the insanity.

The Wolf

Related Posts:
Singles -- Learn To Think For Yourselves!
Shidduch Silliness